Unfortunately in our state of humanity so many of us are willing to sign up for commitments that we can not keep. We often see marriage, children, jobs, etc. in a fantastical view and when tough times come (and they always do) we bail out. This has been a reality for numerous children waiting to be adopted in the state of north carolina. Well meaning families choose to adopt them but once their behavoir becomes hard to control, or they realize that this child needs more time and effort than their others they too relinquish their rights as parents. Of course, this leads to more pain and loss for the child. Therefore, with most domestic agencies here, they ask you to participate in the foster to adopt program. In this program, the child lives with you as a foster child first. Foster children know that foster homes can change...and therefore they are not told that this family is forever, until the adoption is complete. Adoption takes place three months to a year after they are living with you.
While to most the "foster" part is non permanent....in Charlie and I's mind we see it just as a stepping stone to adoption. We are in it for the long haul.
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